As parents, the inexplicable unconditional love we have for our kids sort of has us being okay with the notion that children are indeed dream killers. That shouldn’t be the case however, because first of all having children shouldn’t signal the end of your dreams and secondly, nobody should ever be okay with having to give up on their dreams.
Make no mistake about it – there will indeed have to be a lot of sacrifices made and you may find that you really believe you have to make a choice between continuing to pursue your dreams and being the best parent you can be. There is also no doubt about the fact that any parent would choose their children over anything and everything else, but if you really want something badly enough you’ll work out a way to make it happen. If anything, the compromises which come with parenthood have a lot of life lessons to teach – life lessons which you can apply to all other areas of your life, including those areas which form part of keeping your dream alive and chasing it.
Additionally, it gets easier as the children grow up and you’re called upon to spend less and less time having to keep an eye on their every move, 24/7, beyond a certain age of course. Granted, there are some dreams for which the big time is only available to those who dedicate their entire lives to their perusal, often within a certain window of opportunity.
So what if you had an Olympic dream and because you had a child as a late teen when you could perhaps have been training 18 hours day you’ll never really get the chance to participate at the Olympic Games? The idea here is to show you that there is an underlying dream here and that’s the dream which you need to chase.
An Olympic dream isn’t really the one which you have burning inside of you. Your dream is to spend your time practicing whatever sporting code it is you wanted to pursue and something like the Olympic Games are but one of many channels through which that dream could have manifested. How many talented souls never go on to practice their talents professionally, for example?
Does that make them less talented? Does doing what they love and what they’re good at regardless not make them happy?
Some of the best footballers by way of talent end up being famous as freestylers, for example and I even know someone who found her true calling by working with people from a specific region navigate their unique legal challenges. She works with people who could use help with Minnesota nursing home abuse cases who otherwise don’t know where to go for help of the legal and personal-support kind. All her life she believed she actually wanted to be a lawyer herself, but now she knows for sure she just doesn’t have the patience to deal with what are clearly some tough cases from a legal point of view – tough cases which law firms such as the Kosieradzki – Smith handle with great success in their professional capacity.
So find some way to make it happen, children or no children!